Challenge the Norm: Love Yourself

I would like to take a moment to thank Alessia Cara for being today’s TLC and Christina Aguilera. Thank you for being a voice for the uncertain and un-confident. Thank you for giving us another necessary pep-talk because sometimes the world and people suck. I grew up with TLC’s “Unpretty” and Christina Aguilera’s “Beautiful” to remind me that self-love is one of the hardest, yet most important parts of people’s lives. Now, joining some of the greats, we have Alessia Cara’s “Scars to Your Beautiful” to remind us of the same thing. 

For me, the scars are literal, but that’s not how others perceive it. Its more about being comfortable in your own skin and ignoring all negative judgments today’s world pushes on us. Life hands us some sucky cards and it’s our job to make the most of it. We have the power to decide what we want in our life and how we’re going to live it.

I’ve had my dark points, depression and anxiety are forever a part of me. I made a promise that for every dark moment, or day I don’t want to leave bed, I’m going to have double that to make myself happy. That’s not easy to do. Making yourself happy mean going inside yourself and doing a lot of reflecting. Nobody wants to do that because ignorance is bliss. But when you learn how to make yourself happy and you can love yourself, you become a happier person all around and it feels sooo much better than relying on other people to make you happy.

People suck, we are judgmental by nature. Like it or not, the ugly truth is that we all judge ourselves and others subconsciously. The world sucks, there are predisposed ideas of how we’re supposed to look, act, feel, behave, etc. Once you are able to truly love yourself those things won’t matter. Thank you Alessia Cara for reminding us of this.

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